Tara Trewartha, Psychologist, Baulkham Hills NSW
3 April 2018
Fatigued? Burnt out? Struggling to get on top of things?
Unfortunately, with the busyness of everyday life, many of us are feeling this way. When we have so many responsibilities and obligations, how are we supposed to find time to care for ourselves?
We often prioritise our friends, family, jobs and chores, but where does caring for yourself fit in your list of priorities?
what is self-care?
Self-care means taking care of our own physical, mental and emotional needs. Self-care can include our basic needs like sleep, eating well, and exercising, but it’s also about doing things that we enjoy and that help us to recharge.
It might feel counterproductive to take time purely for ourselves when it can be hard to find the time to meet our other responsibilities.
Something we often find though, is that when we take care of our own needs, we have more capacity to do the other important things in our lives. Recharging our batteries and caring for ourselves can make us more efficient and effective at achieving our everyday goals.
Taking time to care for ourselves is important for our physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing. If you aren’t taking care of yourself, can you really perform at your best?
where to start?
We all have different interests and activities that help us to recharge, but here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Schedule “me time”: Allocate some time in your schedule purely for self-care. If your “me time” isn’t planned in advance, it’s easy to let other commitments take priority.
2. Enjoy: Treat yourself to things you enjoy. If you don’t have a hobby, experiment! Use your “me time” to find an activity that you enjoy.
3. Relax: Kick back and enjoy some relaxation time. Run a bath, read a book, drink some tea, meditate, do whatever it is that helps you unwind.
4. Connect: Sometimes when life gets in the way we isolate ourselves. Connecting with others can lift our mood, help us cope with stress, and bring us enjoyment. Call a friend or family member, engage with your community, or organise a catch-up with someone who makes you smile.
5. Recharge: Self-care should be more rewarding than it is draining. If self-care makes you feel more drained or stressed, experiment with some other strategies that help you recharge.
6. Say “no”: If you are struggling to find the time to care for yourself, maybe it’s a sign that you’re sacrificing your own wellbeing for the needs of others. Remember we can’t take care of others if we don’t first take care of ourselves. It’s about finding a balance between caring for ourselves and meeting our other obligations.
Now that you have some tips for self-care, why not try it for a week and see what happens? What small changes can you make in your life today to put yourself first?
Psychologist, Baulkham Hills NSW
Tara is a psychologist who enjoys working with people of all ages and backgrounds. Tara is passionate about helping people to capitalise on their individual strengths and develop new skills to experience a greater quality of life and achieve their goals.